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Chocolates and relationships: Sweet threads in life’s fabric

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For over 5,000 years, chocolates have tempted humanity, evolving from an ancient Mesoamerican discovery into today’s irresistible delight. Picture your own childhood, you waited eagerly, heart pounding, hoping someone would hand you that precious piece.

It was your shining reward for chores done well, your cheeky demand during playtime meltdowns, your secret wish whispered at night, and your biggest thrill on special days. How innocent that pure, uncomplicated happiness feels in memory!

Yet, chocolates aren’t always peaceful. Siblings bickered fiercely over a single bar, grudges simmering for days or longer. Countless families carry stories of fights that tested limits, but ultimately, the moments taught early lessons in sharing and making up.

At its core, chocolate nurtures relationships by teaching the magic of generosity. Handing a piece to a sibling or friend builds the habit of sharing, turning “mine” into “ours” in young minds. Parents embody this endlessly no matter who else gets treats, they never forget you. You’re always their child, forever eligible for that pocketed surprise, a beautiful reminder of unconditional family love.

Even guests who distribute to the young ones deliver a playful pinch: “You’re too old now!” It stings, doesn’t it? You’ve grown, earned responsibilities, but deep down, who among us is truly too old for chocolate’s comforting embrace?

Stepping into adulthood, we reclaim chocolate’s power to connect. To bond with a child, you offer it as a gentle bribe for good behaviour, an icebreaker in shy moments, or a heartfelt gesture of kindness. It works wonders, melting resistance into smiles, and these simple gifts like chocolate create reciprocal ties, fostering trust and warmth without a word.

Beyond family, chocolates brighten gloomy days or serve as ideal gifts for birthdays, apologies that show sincere amends, support in tough times, or sometimes a quiet “thank you.” During recovery or stress, they deliver comfort, energy, and an emotional hug.

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In romance, they have expressed feelings for decades; Chocolate Day celebrates how one box can impress, shifting lives from single to mingled. It’s the easiest, most satisfying way to please someone, carrying sweetness only your heart can fully taste.

Generational magic shines brightest in those tender reunions. Parents and grandparents return weary from work and walk; the child lights up, hand diving into that pocket for toffee or candy, the glow in those eyes doubles the joy for both. Years pass, roles get reversed, and now the grown child brings home chocolates, recreating that same spark of delight.

On a broader scale, chocolates build workplace relationships shared in meetings or gifted to clients. They smooth corporate paths. Chocolate factories stand as economic powerhouses, employing thousands in production, packaging, and sales. Even capitalism, often seen as cold, promotes sweetness here: profit-driven industries create jobs while fueling social bonds through these everyday treats.

As life unfolds, our chocolate lens changes. Ignorant of brands as kids, a one-rupee toffee sparked wild happiness, quality irrelevant, just the moment mattered. Adulthood flips this: now price, prestige, and labels dominate.

We chase premium packs, forgetting the raw joy of simpler times. Pause for a personal check. If someone offers you that one-rupee chocolate today, ignoring its humble cost, what rises in you? Unfiltered delight? A judging glance at its cheapness? Or gratitude for the giver’s pure intention? Sociologically, these rituals reveal how gifting preserves relationships amid change, prioritising emotion over expense, keeping life’s sweetness alive.

Chocolates, in all forms, show how we revolve around these small treats throughout life, threading relationships with enduring joy.

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Shrestha is a Kathmandu-based cultural educator, heritage preservationist, and social work professional.

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