Embracing wisdom: Breaking free from midlife crisis

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Many Individuals in their late 30s and early 40s face – a midlife crisis. It is a phase where the sweet memories of school days and the vibrant exploration of college life seem like distant echoes, and the weight of responsibilities begins to press down heavily on one’s shoulders.

In Nepal, many people pursue education well into their late 20s or early 30s. This transition can be especially challenging. However, it is necessary to understand that what matters the most is acceptance and the patience to keep moving forward following the heart.

The journey of responsibilities

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For many Nepali individuals, the journey from their late 30s to early 40s is marked by milestones — completing postgraduate education, embarking on careers, navigating relationships, and embracing the duties of parenthood. This period is a whirlwind of activity, with individuals striving to find their footing in various roles— be it as job seekers, entrepreneurs, or researchers.

Amidst the pursuit of these responsibilities, individuals often find themselves caught in the relentless tide of societal expectations. Marriage, often entered into in one’s mid to late 20s, adds another layer of accountability to an already complex tapestry of obligations. Balancing the demands of work, family, relationships, and personal aspirations becomes a delicate dance, requiring resilience and adaptability.

The midlife crossroads

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As individuals progress through their 30s and 40s, the landscape of their lives undergoes significant shifts. Children grow from dependent youngsters into independent adults, parents enter their twilight years, and personal and professional challenges abound. It’s amidst these swirling currents that the spectre of midlife crisis emerges – a period marked by existential questioning, dissatisfaction, and a sense of restlessness.

While the midlife crisis may seem daunting, it is not an insurmountable obstacle. The key lies in understanding and embracing the fundamental principles of life. In a society where success and failure often loom large, it is crucial to recognise that these are transient states, mere ripples in the vast ocean of existence.

Embracing simplicity

One of the fundamental lessons in navigating a midlife crisis is the art of simplicity. Cultivating skills that allow for a less complex way of living, embracing life’s uncertainties, and relinquishing the need for control can alleviate much of the burden. Learning to welcome life’s twists and turns, regardless of outcome, fosters resilience and inner peace.

Central to overcoming the midlife crisis is the cultivation of self-love and passion. Investing time and energy into activities that bring joy and fulfilment, whether pursuing hobbies, spending time in nature, or engaging in self-care practices, nurtures a sense of inner contentment.

The wisdom of perspective

In a world where external validation often holds sway, learning to detach from the opinions of others can be liberating. While feedback and criticism have their place, placing undue importance on external judgments can lead to unnecessary suffering. Instead, cultivating a mindset of detachment allows for greater clarity and inner strength.

In the end, as the journey through midlife unfolds, it is essential to remember that crises, whether personal or existential, are of temporary state. By embracing the principles of simplicity, self-love, and detachment, individuals can navigate this tumultuous terrain with grace and wisdom.

In the labyrinth of midlife, it is not the destination that matters but the journey itself – a journey towards self-discovery, fulfilment, and ultimately, inner peace.

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Lamsal is an academician, engineer and a researcher.

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